As humans, our focus is often on the ones who are against us. The ones that aren’t in our corner. The critics, the naysayers, the opposition. We spend far too much time thinking over the negative comments and far too little time focused on the good ones. We can see 100 positive comments and one criticism and we focus on the criticism. I’ve said this before, but I’m saying it again…there are far more people for you than there are against you.
We tend to be quietly in support of others and loudly in opposition of others. Our against voice has become far louder than our for voice. It’s as if we have glorified being in opposition. We cheer against other teams rather than cheering for our own. We speak against politicians we don’t like instead of rooting for the ones we do like. We are just so utterly opposed anymore.
Sweet friends, today, may I encourage you to cheer loudly for the things you love and ignore the things you don’t. Tell everyone how much you like something rather than telling them what you don’t like. Tell those around you that they are doing good things; that you see, appreciate and respect their efforts. Engage in conversations with coworkers that praise colleagues instead of criticizing them. Let’s be for things, rather than against.
In our marriage, Jarrett and I praise each other for both large and small things. We try to create an air of thankfulness rather than an air of criticism. It’s not about ignoring the problems or issues but in magnifying the strengths. If I only tell him what he does wrong, I’m literally calling forth the negative. Our words are powerful friends. Speak life into people and watch how the atmosphere around you changes. You control the temperature, make sure you’re moving it in the right direction. Much love and spreading light sweet friends.
