I have spent a lot of my life blaming other people for my problems and the undesirable situations I find myself in. My bad days, my bad moods, increased difficulty, stress, etc. The truth of the matter is that people are going to do what people are going to do. Some people are not going to be kind to you, some people are going to use you, some are even going to harm you. People will try to harm you by spreading rumors, creating drama, and escalating things that don’t need to be escalated. Truthfully, this behavior says a lot more about them than it does about you. Insecurity drives a lot of undesirable behavior.
I am learning to see that no matter how I treat people, some just aren’t going to match my energy. Some are going to lie to my face, talk about me behind my back, and try to manipulate information to suit their own needs. No. Matter. What. I. Do. So, what does that mean? It means that I can’t control them. But I can control me. Stop treating people the way that you feel and treat them better than you feel. The shift will shock you. Very few people really care whether or not something is hard for you, stop complaining about how hard it is and get it done. Talking about it doesn’t make it any easier and usually once it’s done we realize it wasn’t so bad after all.
One of the greatest lessons I have learned is to let people be who they are. Most often, calling people out does no good. People who treat people with little to no regard, have little to no regard for their own personal growth as well. They literally cannot see. Trying to make them see, only makes things harder for you. Give growth energy to the people in your life that want it and leave the rest to their own devices.
Focus on yourself. Your growth. Your truth. Your vision. Be not consumed with the drama, the rumors, and the lies. Be so rooted in who you are that what other people say doesn’t affect you. Pursue your own growth. These small bumps are sent to distract you from becoming who you were meant to be. Passionately pursue your growth and stay focused on your path. You can’t stop the behavior of others, but you can ignore it. You can choose not only not to react, but to be unaffected. Do not let the behavior of others drive your decisions, that puts the power in their hands. Everything you need for the life you are living is already on the inside of you. You can spend your time trying to understand the behavior of other people, or you can spend your time focused on something that actually matters. The choice is yours, fight the lies, or fight for your own future.
